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Emily
I don't have OCD but thanks to my parents being alcoholics I did have depression for years, suffered a bit of anxiety and possibly (although I'm not sure) some PTSD.
My sister suffers from anxiety to this day.
I think the thing I'd like people to be aware of most for depression is 1. You can fight it yourself, you don't need anti depressants (which I believe only numb the emotions, they don't help the problem itself) you don't NEED counseling as it's often useless when it comes to deep routed problems. I fought it myself without help because I didn't think even a counselor would get it, and I believed in myself. I know a couple of people, my mum included, who just don't believe they can do it, therefore they don't, not even with help. I had motivation - I didn't want to end up like my mum. I still have some minor problems - sometimes I lose touch of reality and things start seeming like mountains when they're mole hills kinda thing, but I don't want to die, I have goals and ambition and generally have a much better quality of life now.
2. Depression and anxiety overtake your personality, something I found incredibly difficult when I broke out of my depression. Suddenly, I didn't have a freaking idea who I was. For years I was this messed up girl with all these problems, alcoholic parents, I was somewhat distanced from my sisters, no self belief ect. I had no interest in anything then bam, broke out of my depression, had to figure myself out again. When I was younger, I was convinced I'd die when I was 16, I couldn't see anything past high school. I never thought of having an actual career or the future at all. Then everything was a possibility. It sounds good but it was so hard to re-establish myself. I had to backtrack to when I was about 5 to figure out what I used to enjoy - animals, art, sports. It's a whole personality change. I will never know my real mum because I will never know her without depression because she doesn't believe she can do anything about it, and at this point, (40 years on antidepressants) she probably can't.
The third thing I'd want people to know is there isn't one type of alcoholic. (a lot of this probably counts for drug addicts too, depending on the severity of the drug, as alcohol is a drug.)
So, both of my parents are alcoholics, but they are totally different people.
So you have my Dad - He's always been a young at heart kinda person but when he's sober, he's craz shy. I've always found it fairly difficult to talk to him about anything in detail, unless he's had a couple of drinks. Then he becomes animated. He'll talk for ages about the things he enjoys. He basically turns from this professional quiet man into this 20-something year old. He isn''t the stereotypical "my life is run by alcohol" kinda guy, it's "I'm young, if I'm gonna die, it's going to be having fun" sorta thing. I don't think he's ever seen it as an addiction, just someway to liven things up. He had a successful career in computer programming until the last couple of years, where as a 56 year old, his age is heavily working against him but even now, despite drinking every night until like 5am and waking up at 1 or 2 pm, he's started a hypnotherapist course and is working on a couple of websites and various other things.
Then you have my mum. She is useless. She has no willpower, nothing really to live for, she can't drive, use a computer, she hasn't had a job in about 12 years, she rarely gets dressed, she rarely goes out, it sounds really harsh but she's basically a waste. When I was younger she'd do anything to cause some drama. We had the social services heavily involved in our lives because she'd do things like go out in the back yard in her underwear (thankfully only the backyard, but my neighbors didn't appreciate thing.) She once got done for drink driving with me and my sister in the car, I've seen her try to kill herself (this one probably should have caused PTSD, but by this point I actually hated her and honestly, didn't really care. I was very depressed.) She once took me and my sister to a refuge with claims my dad was being violent and looking back at how frantic mum used to be, I couldn't blame my dad if he was at all, though if he was, there was nothing to show for it. It must have been extremely stressful for him, holding down full time jobs and trying to look after me and my sister. The only memory of violence I have is actually from my mum.
Things have calmed down a lot now, I'm pretty sure they were cries for help and now she's given up, especially since me and my sisters don't depend on her anymore.
Sorry about the life story, I wanted to do something similar to you but as you've beaten me to it, I may as well give you all I can! I hope it helps :)
My sister suffers from anxiety to this day.
I think the thing I'd like people to be aware of most for depression is 1. You can fight it yourself, you don't need anti depressants (which I believe only numb the emotions, they don't help the problem itself) you don't NEED counseling as it's often useless when it comes to deep routed problems. I fought it myself without help because I didn't think even a counselor would get it, and I believed in myself. I know a couple of people, my mum included, who just don't believe they can do it, therefore they don't, not even with help. I had motivation - I didn't want to end up like my mum. I still have some minor problems - sometimes I lose touch of reality and things start seeming like mountains when they're mole hills kinda thing, but I don't want to die, I have goals and ambition and generally have a much better quality of life now.
2. Depression and anxiety overtake your personality, something I found incredibly difficult when I broke out of my depression. Suddenly, I didn't have a freaking idea who I was. For years I was this messed up girl with all these problems, alcoholic parents, I was somewhat distanced from my sisters, no self belief ect. I had no interest in anything then bam, broke out of my depression, had to figure myself out again. When I was younger, I was convinced I'd die when I was 16, I couldn't see anything past high school. I never thought of having an actual career or the future at all. Then everything was a possibility. It sounds good but it was so hard to re-establish myself. I had to backtrack to when I was about 5 to figure out what I used to enjoy - animals, art, sports. It's a whole personality change. I will never know my real mum because I will never know her without depression because she doesn't believe she can do anything about it, and at this point, (40 years on antidepressants) she probably can't.
The third thing I'd want people to know is there isn't one type of alcoholic. (a lot of this probably counts for drug addicts too, depending on the severity of the drug, as alcohol is a drug.)
So, both of my parents are alcoholics, but they are totally different people.
So you have my Dad - He's always been a young at heart kinda person but when he's sober, he's craz shy. I've always found it fairly difficult to talk to him about anything in detail, unless he's had a couple of drinks. Then he becomes animated. He'll talk for ages about the things he enjoys. He basically turns from this professional quiet man into this 20-something year old. He isn''t the stereotypical "my life is run by alcohol" kinda guy, it's "I'm young, if I'm gonna die, it's going to be having fun" sorta thing. I don't think he's ever seen it as an addiction, just someway to liven things up. He had a successful career in computer programming until the last couple of years, where as a 56 year old, his age is heavily working against him but even now, despite drinking every night until like 5am and waking up at 1 or 2 pm, he's started a hypnotherapist course and is working on a couple of websites and various other things.
Then you have my mum. She is useless. She has no willpower, nothing really to live for, she can't drive, use a computer, she hasn't had a job in about 12 years, she rarely gets dressed, she rarely goes out, it sounds really harsh but she's basically a waste. When I was younger she'd do anything to cause some drama. We had the social services heavily involved in our lives because she'd do things like go out in the back yard in her underwear (thankfully only the backyard, but my neighbors didn't appreciate thing.) She once got done for drink driving with me and my sister in the car, I've seen her try to kill herself (this one probably should have caused PTSD, but by this point I actually hated her and honestly, didn't really care. I was very depressed.) She once took me and my sister to a refuge with claims my dad was being violent and looking back at how frantic mum used to be, I couldn't blame my dad if he was at all, though if he was, there was nothing to show for it. It must have been extremely stressful for him, holding down full time jobs and trying to look after me and my sister. The only memory of violence I have is actually from my mum.
Things have calmed down a lot now, I'm pretty sure they were cries for help and now she's given up, especially since me and my sisters don't depend on her anymore.
Sorry about the life story, I wanted to do something similar to you but as you've beaten me to it, I may as well give you all I can! I hope it helps :)
2.
D.D.
I think one of my big pet peeves is that people refuse to think that there is anything that will heal or help heal them of these, and other mental illnesses. When there is. so you could include that, emofree.com
Also that psychiatry knows what it is doing, or that it has healing when it does not, or that the psychotrophics will heal someone when they don't.
another misconception is that psychiatry knows the cause of mental illness ,when it does not.
there has never been any proof of 'chemical imbalances' of the brain.
psychotrophics are for the most part either sedatives, or placebos.
another pet peeve is that the psychiatric protocol and understanding does not move outside the 'science' box, even though they are studying psychic phenomena and have proven it exists, they stay stuck in the protocol that heals no one, but makes drug companies richer.
that psychiatric /psychological/mental health issues will not be solved until they open up their thinking and include physics, energy , electromagnetic energy and esoteric science. as in the movie
'The Secret of Mind Over Matter', at in5d.com
that mental health workers know what they are doing, or that psychiatrists and other would not lie or give someone a faulty diagnosis in order to cover up the mistakes or crime of a colleague or just because they don't like a person. It happens every day.
that all doctors are trustworthy. that what they say is fact. neither is true.
That someone diagnosed must have that condition. Not necessarily true.
That there is no 'cure'. Also not necessarily true.
That the body is lacking in pharmaceutical drugs or chemicals.
That someone who rejects conventional 'therapy ' or drugs is 'difficult' , also not true.
That drug companies are trying to find cures for illness, they are not, they openly admit that, they are trying to find ways to 'manage ' symptoms, which includes the use of more of their drugs and profit, not trying to heal or cure the illness.
That the mentally ill, and schizophrenics are more violent then the general population, the opposite is true.
etc.
FYI the White House just announced a multi billion many years study on mental health and illness, I dont' know if that will include physics, energy medicine, electromagnetic waves, or psychic studies.
Ask the White House/president what it includes at his web site. Ask.
Also that psychiatry knows what it is doing, or that it has healing when it does not, or that the psychotrophics will heal someone when they don't.
another misconception is that psychiatry knows the cause of mental illness ,when it does not.
there has never been any proof of 'chemical imbalances' of the brain.
psychotrophics are for the most part either sedatives, or placebos.
another pet peeve is that the psychiatric protocol and understanding does not move outside the 'science' box, even though they are studying psychic phenomena and have proven it exists, they stay stuck in the protocol that heals no one, but makes drug companies richer.
that psychiatric /psychological/mental health issues will not be solved until they open up their thinking and include physics, energy , electromagnetic energy and esoteric science. as in the movie
'The Secret of Mind Over Matter', at in5d.com
that mental health workers know what they are doing, or that psychiatrists and other would not lie or give someone a faulty diagnosis in order to cover up the mistakes or crime of a colleague or just because they don't like a person. It happens every day.
that all doctors are trustworthy. that what they say is fact. neither is true.
That someone diagnosed must have that condition. Not necessarily true.
That there is no 'cure'. Also not necessarily true.
That the body is lacking in pharmaceutical drugs or chemicals.
That someone who rejects conventional 'therapy ' or drugs is 'difficult' , also not true.
That drug companies are trying to find cures for illness, they are not, they openly admit that, they are trying to find ways to 'manage ' symptoms, which includes the use of more of their drugs and profit, not trying to heal or cure the illness.
That the mentally ill, and schizophrenics are more violent then the general population, the opposite is true.
etc.
FYI the White House just announced a multi billion many years study on mental health and illness, I dont' know if that will include physics, energy medicine, electromagnetic waves, or psychic studies.
Ask the White House/president what it includes at his web site. Ask.
3.
khole12
I have ptsd. I was raped and neglected. PTSD is violent. That's a stereotype. A misnomer. Lots of people w/ PTSD get depressed from their inability to express themselves. Nobody pays any attention. Violence might arise from frustration. I am certainly not violent; all it takes is some validation. There are also physical complaints such as frequent headaches. I had daily headaches until somebody got me to tell them what happened.
W/ OCD it's different. I manage my own OCD but someone told me her son had OCD so bad that he had cracks in his hands from scrubbing them so hard.
W/ OCD it's different. I manage my own OCD but someone told me her son had OCD so bad that he had cracks in his hands from scrubbing them so hard.
4.
*Tani*
People with depression aren't:
Selfish
Lazy
Attention seeking
Nothing bad needs to happen for someone to be depressed, there's something wrong with there brain.
Selfish
Lazy
Attention seeking
Nothing bad needs to happen for someone to be depressed, there's something wrong with there brain.
